Crime and Some Punishment

When a rule is broken, does the reason or intent behind the infraction matter? Or is the only considerable measure the fact that the rule itself was not followed?  I cannot answer this with a solid answer - my reasoning here is all wavy like a big bowl of melting Jello.  How serious was the rule? How badly was it broken? Was is broken-broken or just kind of bent or chipped broken?Who broke it? Why? It is not black and white to me at all.

Scenario: Lillian and Jaxon have each broken the same rule at school and only Jaxon is being punished. This is the story of Jaxon's life.  All the other kids can be running around with scissors, wearing shirts with guns, and calling each other names and he will get caught skipping down the hall and be punished.  I'm not saying he does not deserve it - he does, as he is often breaking the rules, but he is always the one caught.  I think he just does everything so much louder, it's hard not to notice.

This is a clear case of injustice!  Ok, I'm not really that worked up about it, but I do believe there is a little bias here.  It is not only a Lily/Jaxon thing, but a girl/boy thing too.  I see it in schools all the time.  Boys are more frequently called out for behaviors that are being done just as often by the girls.  Like I said about Jaxon, boys are just louder about it.  2 girls may be talking in class and a teacher will let that slide, but two boys are TALKING, and they get in trouble.  Same rule is being broken right?

The kids each broke the "No Touching" rule.  Their elementary is a "No Touching" school.  This means no touching...no wrestling, tackling, punching, kicking, etc. It also means no touching as in no back pats, side hugs, front hugs, hand shakes, etc.  I guess all the kids are supposed to roam about in their little bubbles of space and make sure to avoid any human contact.  I am all for teaching personal space and respecting one's body and bubble but, really?  No touching at an elementary school?  No arms around your buddy as you walk in from recess?  No hugs goodbye from your friends at the end of the day?  They are not allowed to play tag at recess.  Guess why?  That's right!  Because it involves touching.  I guess they could invent no-touch tag...it'd be about as fun as the "no-win, no-lose" sports leagues.

So, Jaxon was "grabbing" (I don't know what that means) kids at recess.  As a result he got a talking to at school, a phone call home, and detention in the form of missed recess.  Lily however "grabs" unsuspecting kids and hugs them everyday, all day.  She is a born hugger...anyway, her love spreading is heeding no warnings, talking to, or detention.  I can clearly see the difference - Jaxon was being rowdy, Lily is being sweet, but isn't a rule a rule?  I'm curious to know your thoughts.

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